DON’T THINK I’M THE SAME AS MY TWIN!

DON’T THINK I’M THE SAME AS MY TWIN!

The sun was just starting to rise. The light coming through the window was making the room brighter. This was the sign to wake up. She woke up with that sunlight as every morning. Her body was used to it. She got out of bed and left the room silently in order not to wake her husband up.

She went to the bathroom and looked at herself in the mirror for a while. “What will happen today?” she thought. You could see her thoughts in her eyes. Then, she walked to the twins’ room.

She was getting ready for the morning chaos. She was usually full of energy, but yesterday she got very tired and went to bed early. Her body rested, but she was still feeling tired. Only mothers could understand the mornings like this. “Come on Ayşe, you can’t escape from this,” she said to herself.

If something happened to her daughters, she would be very upset. However waking them up and getting them ready for the school was harder than a war. “If I don’t wake them up right now, they’ll miss the school bus,” she thought. She took a deep breath and entered the room. She opened the curtains first, then said:
“Come on girls! Time to wake up. You will miss the bus!”

Ece opened her eyes immediately but Şura has never woken up easily. Still, Ayşe knew how to wake her up. She went closer and kissed her on the cheek. Şura opened her eyes, looked around, and then looked at her mother.
“Morning came so fast. Can I skip school today, mom?” she murmured.

Ece was already awake and preparing her clothes. Şura, who didn’t want to wake up, was now jumping on the bed full of energy. She was continuously talking:
“Mom, I can’t wait to go to school! I bought lots of colored pencils. I will draw beautiful pictures today. I’m so excited!”

She was shouting so loud that her dad was about to wake up too. Şura could talk and jump all day and never get tired. She even goes on talking in bed until her eyes are closed.

Ece is different from her twin sister. She doesn’t waste her energy. She couldn’t make sense that Şura was so much energetic.

Suddenly, Ayşe told them to get ready and went to the kitchen to prepare breakfast.
Şura came in to the kitchen and said, “Mooom, how do I look?”
She was wearing a pink tutu skirt, a green shirt, and a princess crown.
Ayşe looked at her and said without thinking, “What did you wear, my girl?” Şura got upset and ran to her room.

Ayşe in a second, thought about Ece. She doesn’t ask anyone about her clothes and if someone says something, she doesn’t even care. Then Ece came for breakfast.

Ayşe noticed that Şura was late, so she went to their room. The room was full of Şura’s clothes on the floor, and her bed wasn’t made. However Ece’s side was very clean and tidy.

“How can they be so different? They are both my children, they are even twins!” she thought.

Anyway, Ayşe felt happy that another morning was ending. After sending the girls to school, she saw her neighbor and close friend Aysel. She invited her for a morning coffee. Soon, they turned talking about the twins’ being different. Ayşe told:

“Aysel, I feel as if I’m a bad mother. One of the twins is very tidy, the other is messy. One eats nothing, the other eats anything. One never speaks too much, the other never stops talking. One is always ready on time, the other is always late. One finds something wrong even in happy moments, the other always says ‘It was fun anyway!’ even in bad times.

Look at that photo. Can you see what they wear? They choose their clothes themselves. Couldn’t we raise them well? Maybe we are not good parents. I can’t find a balance between them. What should I do, Aysel?”.  Ayşe was crying.

Aysel patted on her shoulder. After a minute of silence Aysel told her that many people have the same feelings. She also had similar problems even at work.

“Our problem is not people being different,” she said. “The problem is that we couldn’t manage it well. Nobody talks too much to make us angry, and no one tries to be late on purpose. We need to understand people’s life styles. Instead of criticizing them, we should try to understand and support people.

How can we understand people who act differently? How can we guide them when they need guidance? If you have two different children, try to help them learn good things from each other. How about looking from that perspective?”

Now, Ayşe was feeling better. The problem was not her motherhood. It was that she didn’t know how to behave under these different circumstances. As a result, she had became a complaining and tired mother. After this coffee chat, she decided to change.

People are individuals. They have individual differences. Therefore, we must treat them in different ways. What helps us grow is not being the same but learning how to manage our differences. The things that make us uncomfortable can also be our biggest strength.

Ayşe went home feeling better. Today, she would welcome her twins in different ways. Knowing yourself and others in and out is a big comfort, isn’t it?
So, where do we start to get to know people?

Among billions of people, what importance can ‘one’ person have?

Ask that ‘one’ person for the answer!

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